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Michael B. Morgan's avatar

I was on Instagram for about a year, and then I bailed. It's just not for me.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

It’s really not for anyone! Except the biggest fish in the sea :) I kept mine and barely post on my wall - but use it for dog rescue on the 24 hour story. I actually stopped leaving the hashtag #adoptdontshop because I was noticing how Instagram releases maybe 2 people in 24 hours. It’s a beast. You’re smart. I’m ready to leave but I keep thinking that if one person adopts one of these sweet faces then it’s worth using it for that.

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Michael B. Morgan's avatar

I hear you. But I think it’ll only get worse. But… Maybe it’s just me.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

For sure. It is worse. I need to make more books for my memories (lol).

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Rosemary Van Gelderen's avatar

Those little squares. It's like learning to edit out all the non-essential details. I'm a big fan of close cropping. I always tell my two who are into photography....crop close! Only give the viewer what they need! They will fill in the rest! I remember my first IG photo. I had bought an old American flag at a yard sale and hung it in the window in the boys bedroom in our duplex where we lived while building our sixth house. I'm not sure why I let my husband talk me into living there while we built. 7 of us crammed into 800 sq ft. Three boys in one bedroom and Misha and Austen in the other. Our bedroom was so small, I couldn't open my closet door for the dresser. I never saw what was in there, until we moved.

All the kids had their own bedroom in that 6 bedroom house! The first week after we moved in, it seemed like the entire youth group came back to my house because we had moved close to our church. I don't think they left for 6 years. Those were the glory days!

But remember how you could make a collage photo of 3 or 4 photos? I mean Instagram was a challenge back then! More recently, when I was driving into town for Bible study and my day with Misha and friends , I always pulled over to take photos of sunrises, old barns looming in fog, horses rolling in their pasture....I miss that. I bet my followers do too. I only really get to the lake now. I'm so glad you found those books. What a treasure. As a photographer, behind the lens, our heart and souls are in those photos. But only another art lover or photographer can see it. My husband recently said...if you go first, I'm just going to toss all your hard drives of photos. That cut deep. He doesn't get it.

And the house your husband built! It is hard to leave, especially when you built it with your own hands, but I've done that my whole adult life. 7 houses. No permanence. I've always wanted a flowering tree in my yard but it only happened once with a house we renovated. I feel that that has Been n my spiritual walk with the Lord....cut ties. Walk through a new door. Don't look back. Like Lot's wife. I just finished, How to Walk into a Room, by Emily P Freeman. It's actually more about leaving rooms. I think you'd really like it.

Beautiful, Deborah! I'm going to peruse your IG! 🩷

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Dear Rosemary! I can't believe you built that many homes and went through all those things. 800 sq ft is no joke! And a square, a vertical, a whatever - all of a sudden it's not easy because it's by design to make you nuts! Instagram or whatever is the latest, like here. I miss the simple film days. Seems life is all about challenges, big and small. The social media makes it nothing but distraction -- good or bad -- however we use it I guess. I get fed up with feeling like a herded cow. I am always picked out of the herd by a bad border collie and diverted somewhere else away from my tribe. lol. I remember collages - All the programs change every 6 months -- like cameras! And those "drive-by" shootings or pulling over. Everything is beautiful or interesting no matter how many times we pass certain scenes by or visit the same places. I remember. How sad your husband would just toss everything. Honestly many people just don't relate. Everything we do to document our family or a place, etc. is for the personal history books of our families. I wish I had more from my family. My dad was the keeper of visual history for us. I treasure what he did and can't imagine just tossing his work and images in the trash. But this is what happened to John's artisit grandfather. I wrote about it. His daughters gave it all away. It happens so much in families. But like our homes - I guess. There is no permanence as you say. I feel the same about the spiritual walk. It is about letting go. Of our homes, our people, everything. Just walk beside him, behind him and keep going. I will check out Emily's piece. Thank you Rosemary for your friendship here. Sending you nothing but love. oxox

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perfectlight's avatar

thank you for the mention!

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Susan Kuenzi's avatar

I enjoy your photography and writing.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you Susan! I enjoy yours too. Although I feel like I'm sinking here because I don't see anyone I know in my feed at all and it seems to get worse with each day. I check the carousel and it seems to be stuck with the same people. It's all very strange - but I'm keeping going. I hope you're doing well. oxox

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Susan Kuenzi's avatar

I think most of us are experiencing similar things.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Yes. Many of us are. I wish they would help the situation. It’s sad to not see your community.

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Joan Stommen's avatar

It’s become annoying with AI and staged reels! I only check stories each morning…that’s where the heart lies, today’s moments that matter. I enjoy your collections onIG …I only do when I’ve something worthy! Love your photographs, my friend… perfect outlet for them; caption or no caption! ☺️🥰

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The Braver Mom's avatar

Instagram before has been the only social media I am comfortable with. Too bad it evolved to be a monster too. Still there but the magic is not the same. 😕

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Mark Foard's avatar

Thank you so much for the mention, Deb. That’s a great collection of IG images you’ve posted. I quit IG (and Facebook) some time ago. Between the algorithms, crypto advice and weird messages, it was all getting to be very annoying. Happy I found Substack though, despite some of the recent changes. I’m comfortable here and have made many good connections (including you, of course). Take care.

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