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SonOfaGunn4321's avatar

"Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave, impossible to forget." 

Family can be your best friends & your best friends are always considered family. Thank you for this my sweet sister ❤❤❤ We've all had a lot to process lately & your inspiration of words always helps the heart to heal.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Adam, my heart has felt every ounce of this for you. There is nothing like a good friend. The loss is immense. Our family. The family of brothers. Everything you say here. I love you and I carry your heart. I carry it in mine as we do this for those we are missing greatly. Forever. oxox

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Charlotte Pendragon's avatar

Oh no, I am sorry to hear about your little brother's close friend and his brother. And the wind went out of my spiritual sails to listen to the news about Val Kilmer, who had been suffering from cancer for several years.

What a beautiful tribute to Mike. Saying goodbye to him at the top of the mountain, at a place he spent so much time bonding with his kids. And Brian? I am sure the hearts of every single one of your family aches for his presence. But in the larger clock of God’s time, we will meet for eternity. That's His promise.

Sending you much love and empathy to you, Deborah, and your families. ✨🙏💜

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you friend. What a year so far, for so many people. The losses are getting to be unfathomable. I loved Val Kilmer too. So sad.

We were so pleased to hear they picked a date and it's at the ski lifts. It had to be a little warmer and when kids were out of school, so it's perfect. It will be a beautiful celebration of his life and I believe the entire mountain and many living below will be there. I've set my calendar for 4am Friday to watch my uncle's memorial. Ugh. Do you know that his lovely wife, Debbie, asked if one of my 2nd cousins could read what I wrote for him at the memorial? I couldn't believe it - but he found us. He discovered the secret of my mum years ago in the late 70's. If it weren't for him we would have remained a secret. The investigator that he was. Thank God. My poor brother, Adam, has lost two friends in their late 50's in the last two years now. It's so very sad.

We will absolutely meet for eternity someday. We know this. Thank you again for your comforting words and for your love always.

oxox

P.S. Guess what I'm doing again? lol. But it's naptime :)

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Beryl Gunn's avatar

This is beautiful. The family, the friends & those we knew about will all stay in our hearts forever ♥

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you mama. They will. We carry them in our hearts. I love you. ox

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Blessed Warrior Reina's avatar

This so resonates, every word within my Soul, I Am So very Sorry for All your losses, but know they are not truly lost, they are home, and will receive U when it's time🥰🥰👑👑💜💜☯️☯️🧿🧿🌴🌴

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Dear Reina, thank you so much for this. I’ll admit it’s been an emotional few months. Just hits you. When John had his birthday on March 11th, he didn’t really want me to make him a lunch. After he walked out the door I realized that he always had a breakfast or a lunch with his brother. I cried. Mike died the Jan 29th. For years they had a weekly thing too. John was really busy that day and had been super busy for days, as is is m.o. with working through childhood on. He lost his dad to divorce at 8, then at 15 to cancer and he works through everything quietly storing it. We were so happy to know that the memorial will be up at the ski lifts. They waited for the perfect time. Then there’s my poor brother looking after our mom and since he’s lost two friends. One to suicide and Erik to cancer. A different one that came with a vengeance and took him fast. Not vaccinated. Not related as far as I know to his childhood cancer. Such great young men in their late 50’s. Then the missing of my sweet uncle. The years and distance just brings the bottled up out of me. I wrote this before all the passings - Funny how God works with timing. I know you felt it. We know the distance and pain of family and circumstances whatever they may be. I really hope you’re doing okay and I will catch up with you very soon. On my way to babysit. Love you beautiful. oxox

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Blessed Warrior Reina's avatar

I Love U Beautiful💜💜🥺🥺 my heart feels so heavy at this moment, I feel the pain in your words. I'm here for U👑👑💜💜☯️☯️

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

I'm sneaking some babysitting nap-time to tell you again -- thank you 🙏🏻

I can feel your great big heart. The world is losing so many people 😢😩. We gotta live and love. oxox

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you sister. I am holding you in prayer. I’ll be back later today. oxox

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An K.'s avatar

I'm so very sorry! My condolences!! Sending love and light your way! 🫶

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Dear An, thank you so much. It’s been a sentimental year of loss. The grief always walks with the joy of knowing them too. We are all so blessed for the time we had. ox

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An K.'s avatar

Yes, it’s like a tug of war..

Isn’t it funny how these things come in bunches?

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Jim J Wilsky's avatar

Deborah, without a doubt one your best posts. It gently rolled and flowed like a peaceful slow-moving river in summertime. Wonderful. - Jim

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Gosh Jim, thank you. You are so kind. I had this tucked away from a year ago. Must have been on a sentimental day I wrote it and just didn’t post. God is good that way when you are in that space again and it felt right with the passing of so many in these last few months. This really lifted my spirits for writing poetry. I’d love to submit somewhere - just don’t know where to start. For now it’s just a joy to write. Hope this finds you doing good. oxox

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Dave Balderstone's avatar

The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Dave, this can be so true for many, many people. We are a big family, if only we could look at it this way. Thank you for reading this. ox

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Ken Macko's avatar

Many too many we lose much too young. A reminder tomorrow has no guarantee.

Can we learn lessons from their passing to appreciate the simplest things in life while we have them.

May eternal life bring them all peace, calm and comfort.

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you Ken. I appreciate your comments so much. Gone too soon. So many these days it seems.

You’re right. No guarantees. Life is such a gift and when our family/friends pass away we should try and carry on what they no longer can. Take them forward and live our lives to the fullest. For them. ox

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Simone Senisin's avatar

And may you feel them holding you as they gently blow a whisper into your ear and cup your face in their hands. Sending love to you Deborah ❤️🙏

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you so very much dear friend. I feel your words and love here so deeply. I know this resonates in your heart. oxox

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Simone Senisin's avatar

❤️🥰🙏

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Julie Dee's avatar

Before I saw the Donovan links, I immediately thought of him when seeing the title. Nice memories for me as I was really into his music as a teenager.

The first pic is just so precious and the poem carries that bittersweet ‘home and away’ feeling well.

Love to you x

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Deborah T. Hewitt's avatar

Thank you so much beautiful. I adore Donovan too. Always brings me the raw emotions. Glad it brought you back to the good. And thank you for your kindness always. love you my friend. oxox

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