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Music music music....such a huge part of life! We remember songs that we liked and listened to at the time a loved one passed. When Amy passed it was "Here You Me" by Jimmy Eat World. With my brother Jerry, it was "Country From the Dome Car" by Brooke Miller. Even now, both leave me wif somefin in me eye whenever I hear them. If I'm alone, I cry, if with someone, I shut the music off. I hate crying. But music often makes me cry. At Amy's funeral and my mom's, my brother played O God Beyond All Praising. (Holst's "Jupiter" makes me cry too) WHY can music be a part of life so memorable that it can take you right back to a reality long past? Rhetorical question. I like all the arts but drama and music are my favourites as a spectator. Great memory and you write so well! (Congratulations on your merger with Alex's Lighthouse!!) Much love and blessings! ~Jenni

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He’s right there, with you, Deborah. Unseen, unheard, but Love Never Dies.

You carry your dad in your heart, and from where he is at peace now, he keeps infusing you, his little girl, with his love.

Take care and celebrate the wonderful dad he was and always will be 💙🙏💫

And happy Father’s day to John 💙🙏

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He is! All the way, seems every single day! Funny how when we lose someone dear their memory grows more and more in your heart. You pull out things that you wish you could have said. In a very grateful, thankful place these days. It’s truly a blessing. And thank you! I will pass that onto my John. He will appreciate it. God Bless and keep you lovely Joyce. Hope you’re having a beautiful day. oxox

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Thank you my friend xo

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Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute to your father’s memory Deborah. I know he can read them where he rests. That’s what I believe. God Bless you ✨💜🙏

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He is most definitely asking me to take down the lights with a great big grin. ha ha! But them I'm my dad's daughter and I do my own thing! He is watching over. Thank you beautiful friend. God Bless you today, this Father's Day, and every day - love you Charlotte. oxox

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So beautiful, the way you treasure him inside your soul and heart, the connection that is forever.

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Thank you again for sharing this Alexander! We are the lucky ones to have had such good dads. Blessed. ox

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Thank you for sharing this!! 🙏 I know your dad is still smiling and singing with you ❤️

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Merissa! I think I thought I was responding to your post for Father's Day! lol. It's very hard to backtrack in Notes, as there's reference? So, "Of course! I loved it :) and thank you. " was for your post - which I think we already corresponded!

And thank you for reading this! It means to much to me. He is smiling and telling me to take not to make a fuss! ha ha! ox

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You're fine! I knew what you were saying haha! Yes I loved reading it and awww haha! 🩷🩷

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.. and my sentences that don't make sense!! ha ha! I will correct that when I'm near my computer! 🤦‍♀️ and to think I'm "writing?" 😅

and I owe you a p.m. back!

I will get my act together! ox

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Haha! You're good loll! 😂😂 I do the same thing sometimes lollll!

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Painful, but so lovely in the telling. Thank you. Deb, and I hope you have a wonderful Father’s Day weekend ❤️

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Thank you Jenn. Some things you can hold inside for just so long. Felt good to walk through this day and the years after, as if it was truly his blessed procession, fanfare and all. Something more. So many people deserved something more during those years. We were extremely blessed to be with him, when so many said goodbye on digital screens. When I realized the end of 2021 how good the hospice was to us, I weeped for everyone that couldn’t do this. But then, the afterwards, the masks, the distance, no parties, no celebrations of life. Quiet reaching for things to keep us close.

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That must have been hard to be separated and distant during that painful time. Sending a hug ❤️

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Brilliant, heavy, strong, endearing.

You roped it all in.

Our Lasso experience.

Our time stopped & started again.

Our Dad watching.

Carry on ❤🙏

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I had to walk us through this. I had to be brave for all the things between the lines still unspoken. Love you so much Adam. Thank you. oxox

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He must've have been somethin'!...and so proud!

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He was a character indeed and taught me a lot. I am so grateful. Thank you Sure. I so appreciate your kindness. ox

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Molly Drake. She has such an evocative melancholy voice, doesn’t she? I do enjoy It.

The older we get, the more people we must say goodbye to, sadly - BUT - as you pointed out with the baby, the more people we say hello to too. I hope you spend the day surrounded with wonderful memories xx

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Doesn't she?! So much felt, solid music in that show.

It's true, getting old is tough seeing people go. Always a new life arriving, many new lives unseen when we're grieving. We were blown away by it all. Dad's mum died at 42. Very special to receive our Violet so soon after he passed. Softened the blow.

Thank you for the love Julie!

Happy weekend to you 😘

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Happy Dads day Deb. I can hear him singing along.

If you're coming up for air, breathing in

You know I'll be there when you first begin

And when everybody's telling us

We have no time, we'll prove 'em wrong again

'Cause yeah, it might be all that you get

Yeah, I guess this might well be it

But heaven knows I've tried

And heaven knows I've tried

Beautiful Deb. Something tells me that trying is all we can ever get. That is more than good enough.

Bless you 🙏❤️

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…”trying is all we can ever get…that is enough”… beautiful thought, Jaime. Makes life much easier. ☺️

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Oh my goodness Jamie!!!! I was literally sitting up here at quarter past 4am adding the line "cause heaven knows you tried" after saying "You made it."

Yessss! 🙌🏻✨ Then I see this from you!!!

Thank you sooo much for the love and the Lasso theme!!! oxox

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You made it.

🙏❤️

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Beautiful tribute to your Dad, Debbie. We almost made 65 years of marriage and he is still here with me now. Unbelievable! Happy heavenly fathers day.

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I love you mama. I've had this day on my heart for so long and the Lasso journey that no one saw. We are so blessed. You made it together. Now we remember all the good times. Unbelievable!! oxoxox

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❤️😊🫶

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We made it! 🙏🏻🌈❤️

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Beautiful tribute to your dad! These perfect songs of grief and longing; knowing he would love Ted… more importantly, Ted Lasso got you through! Best show ever..wish it had more seasons. Thank you for sharing this intimate goodbye, your grief and being there for your mom. What a beautiful soul you have, Deb…God bless you all as you remember him, smiling through you tears. 🙏🫶💜🙏🫶💜

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I wrote "we made it" to Jamie at 4:30am! ha ha! A bit loopy! 🤪😅

Dearest Joan,

Thank you so much for your love and support. He would have loved Ted! It's amazing how we find comfort in grief ❤️ I had to get this one out and share. It's been pressed on my heart for 3 1/2 years. It's our "farewell."

God Bless you on this "missingness" journey too. Love you, deb oxox

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Yesss! We made it 🙌🏻🌈 ❤️

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❤️🙏

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